Just come as you are. Don’t let shame or guilt prevent you from being set free. Feel the transformation happen, because its a demonstration of His power and not based on fancy words. It becomes a beautiful exchange of freedom, humility and self control. Its not our will, but His that we are working to accomplish. Renewing our minds through fellowship and scripture begins an automatic transfer, as the Holy Spirit takes residence in you. Romans 12:2, “do not be conformed to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-His good, pleasing and perfect will.” Whatever needs changing will be relational, not a condemning form of Religion.
Speaking from my own experience I can say in the flesh, I sure do not care to live a godly life. I want to do all the things I used to do. Renewing my mind everyday through prayer and opening my Bible builds my spiritual strength. Since the enemy comes to our thoughts our battles come from our minds. Proverbs 23:7 “as what a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” It all begins in the mind.
Ephesians 6:12, “for our struggle in not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” We must pray for the soul, (mind, will & emotions) declaring strength to overcome. God tests where as Satan temps. The enemy knows exactly what temptations to throw at you. He knows what cute guy or smoking hot female to throw in your path. He knows what’s sets you on edge to make you crave that drug, or how to ruin something when its good. We must use discernment and reflect on dying to the flesh daily to let the Holy Spirit lead and place this powerful energy under the Lordship of Christ.
Once dependency becomes like second nature your relationship becomes richer and difficult temptations become easier to not entertain. We must rebuke them in the name of Jesus, and pass Gods test. The born again believer can certainly get an attaching spirit that will eventually turn your walk upside down. We have to be careful and protect ourselves with the Blood of Christ. A born again believer cannot be possessed by a spirit but oppression is common, though spirits cannot dwell in you when one is the Holy Spirit, don’t get arrogant and think your free from any attacks or temptation. If you are truly born again its as if you have a mark on your back, you are a target.
In order for any spirit other than the Holy Spirit to get involved in a born again believers life is if we embrace those practices of that spirit. Then it can get a foothold. The definition of temptation is, a desire to do something, especially something wrong or unwise. Like watching porn, participating or paying in adulterous sexual fornication or cheating on your spouse. The only other way would be if God allowed something because we needed the information as part of our walk perhaps later in life.
Sure the thrill of some temptations are felt like an adrenaline rush with a mix of happy serotonin can bring its own high. Your sensory system is soaring with the thrill of sex. All these delightful sinful desires are consumed and devoured by the flesh. Just because something is good doesn’t mean we should do it. The Word says 1 Corinthians 10:23, “I am allowed to do anything-but not everything is good for you. You say, I am allowed to do anything- but not everything is beneficial.” Ask yourself what benefits are you really getting except temporary pleasure with long term unwanted ripple effects?
I am definitely not perfect. I have experienced temptation and been in that weak moment when your body becomes electrified and stopping sounds ridiculous. You care more about what is going on in that moment over any repercussions that would later be involved. Forget God in that moment; We have needs, right? Your also thinking, “I will just ask for forgiveness, and He will pardon me.” When in actuality the enemy is preaching sexual freedom to bring sexual bondage into relationships.
Unfortunately it does not happen just like that. Sin is free admission but it will cost you your soul. Sex costs attachments, sole ties, energy exchanges and covenants while losing the ability to trust. You see the covenant/vow was not made at the wedding ceremony, it was made in the bedroom, and the woman was to bleed on the man as a blood covenant. The very essence of how God intended it to be is literally fornicated all over. Delighting yourself in simple pleasures, that are only temporary pleasures have no everlasting treasure. This defilement to your temple is difficult to clean up because you have now opened the door for the enemy and by spiritual law has legal right for temptation because you are in his territory. Now what? Now what should we do once you already live for Jesus, and fallen off the wagon away from grace?
What God offers is not just eternal security, but that He gives eternal grace. Its only by grace that redemption and freedom is possible, because it prepares our hearts to live a godly lives and depend on the cross. Every other religion suggests enlightenment, and emptying of oneself; whereas Christianity embraces being dependent on and filled with the Holy Spirit.
If we have fallen to temptation with sexual sin then we must repent and lean on the Holy Spirit. Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” Christianity is NOT a life based on depriving ourselves of all the pleasures of life. It IS a life which is filled with more joy and pleasure than anything the world has to offer. In order to experience any of these pleasures to their fullest, we must follow Gods plan to the letter. The heart is desperately wicked. If we follow our hearts, we are headed for disaster. Jeremiah 17:9, ” the heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it.”
Instead of focusing on sex, we should develop relationships to get to know one another, to bless one another, to share and develop a friendship. We must be willing to give our sexuality to God and allow Him to control it or else we are in danger of making sexuality our god. Because the sexual drive is so strong, it will occupy the majority of our time in a relationship if wise guidelines are not set. Friendship development must be the priority of a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.
You may be a committed Christian, but have never dealt with things in your past or still regularly fornicating. If you want to be truly free of them, surrender them to the Lord, pray and ask for His healing and restoring power to take control of those things. But, you must be patient and understand that the healing may take some time.
God is able to heal us instantly of anything and everything; however it is not always in our best interests for Him to do so. It is His will to heal, but not always His wisdom.