I’ve heard the words “I love you” from men who barely knew me. No history. No deep talks. No shared memories. Just eyes meeting mine, and words falling from their lips like it was fate. And I’ve always wondered… how can love live in a moment so fleeting?
I grew up in a home where love wasn’t easily spoken. Where affection didn’t fill the rooms or spill from mouths like it did in movies. So when someone says they love me, just like that, my heart hesitates. My mind doubts. But still… part of me wonders, what if?
The Bible gives us two striking images. King David saw Bathsheba from a rooftop and desired her. But that wasn’t love. It was lust in its purest, most destructive form, rooted in possession, not purpose.
Then there’s Jacob. He saw Rachel, and something eternal sparked within him. Genesis 29 tells us he kissed her and wept aloud. He loved her so deeply, so instantly. He laboured seven years to make her his bride. He was tricked into marrying her sister, Leah. But his love did not falter, he served another seven years for Rachel. And the Bible says, “they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.”
Fourteen years. For love. Not for lust. Not for her beauty alone. But for her presence. Something in her spirit called to his.
And maybe that’s the key. Because the heart… the heart doesn’t operate by logic. It’s not a calculator. It’s a compass. It doesn’t always need time to decide—it just knows. There’s something unspoken that passes between two people who are meant. A divine knowing. A soul recognition.
Lust rushes. Love roots.
Lust consumes. Love commits.
Lust says, “I want you for what you offer.”
Love says, “I want you even if it costs me.”
But here’s the challenge, “how can someone truly love what they do not know?” That’s the mystery. And the answer might be: “they don’t know your details yet, but they recognize your ESSENCE.
We are spiritual beings first. And sometimes, before the mind catches up, the spirit speaks. It discerns value. Purpose. Connection. A man can see a woman and know, not her story, but her worth. He may not know her favourite color, her past pain, or her dreams yet…But his heart leans in anyway. And sometimes, that’s more honest than the love that grows slow and safe.
Women love differently. We tend to need proof, pursuit, protection. We wait for actions before we open up. But maybe… just maybe…some of us have felt it too. That deep, almost unsettling pull to someone we barely know.
So let’s not dismiss it just because it doesn’t make sense. Let’s not reduce love at first sight to mere fantasy. Because sometimes the soul remembers what the mind hasn’t learned yet.
To the men who say they love too quickly, maybe you see something real. But don’t let your feelings rush you past what it takes to truly know a woman. Let your love be proven, not just spoken.
To the women who question that kind of love, maybe it’s foreign because it’s rare. Not because it’s wrong.
Love at first sight must be real—because there are stories, ancient and modern, of souls who locked eyes and never looked away again. And if you’ve ever experienced it even just once, then you know…
Love at first sight may defy logic, but so does Faith. Faith is how we recognize what the heart already knows. Hebrews 11:1 says, “now faith is a substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”
So in closing, I think it’s fair to say real love doesn’t need time to recognize what God has already revealed. Instead, it needs courage to follow where God leads.
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Love at First Sight… Is It Real?
